... are "you have plenty of time!" Seriously, if one more person tells me "not to worry" and "you have more than enough time to plan," I'm going to scream. Apparently, whenever someone hears 200NINE, they automatically assume that planning really shouldn't start until 2009. Obviously, this is coming from people who haven't planned a wedding in a really, REALLY long time (if ever).
I can *maybe* understand it if you're planning a smaller wedding, in your hometown, and you work parttime. But, I am doing none of that. I'm a full time student in LAW school in my FIRST year. Most people can't even find the time to maintain a relationship during their first year, much less plan a wedding.
Secondly, this is a borderline destination wedding since FI and I live in Boston and the wedding is about 1.5 hours away in Newport, RI. It's not like planning a wedding in another country, but there are still logistical problems and timing issues, such as having to devote an entire day or weekend to visiting venues/vendors/etc. instead of only a few hours here and there.
Thirdly, only ONE member of my bridal party (a bridesmaid) actually lives in Boston. My entire family is in NC, my MOH and 2 other bridesmaids live in DC and the fifth bridesmaid lives in New Orleans. Thus, everything has to be coordinated and communicated through email, phone calls and frequent flyer miles. In fact, most wedding related shopping trips have occurred in NYC, since it's the midway point between DC and Boston.
Finally, we're having a rather large wedding that requires many vendors and planning. Although we have booked our reception venue, we still don't have a church or rehearsal dinner site. And, since Newport is a popular, touristy town, many places are booked over a year in advance! Newport is also a small town, and there are only so many places that fit our needs. Needless to say, we need to book these places ASAP!
The moral of the story is this: Don't tell a frantic bride that she has plenty of time to plan her wedding. There is never enough time, and it always manages to sneak up on you before you know it. Instead, just be supportive and feign interest in whatever wedding detail she is freaking out about that day. On behalf of brides everywhere, I thank you.
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Luckily, you were quite smart to choose a bridal party willing to do almost anything for you, from wherever they are!
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